A conflicting time filled with both emotional turmoil and happiness, choosing to transition from the gender identity you were prescribed at birth to the one that feels authentically like yourself can be straining on a relationship. While transgender activists and celebs, like Janet Mock, and Chaz Bono have helped to increase the visibility of transgender people, many are still struggling with the implications of choosing to transition within a relationship. Though your partner is changing their outside, and the way the world sees them, they are still the person you fell in love with initially. During this incredibly life-affirming time, you can learn to be an ally to your partner as you lovingly support their transition. Educate yourself about the transgender community. If they want to be called by a different name, do it. So when folks misgender me, it reinforces my insecurities about my body. Asking your partner what they prefer is a sign of respect and sure way to show that you care and want to be supportive of them. Just know that it is a process for not only your partner, but for yourself too, and it does get better over time.
Right now, you probably know a friend, partner, or date who’s thought about trying an open relationship. It’s just as likely that you’ve entertained the idea yourself, even if it’s wandering thoughts about dating your significant other and their cute neighbor, or a go-to fantasy of being the designated unicorn in a three-way with Drake and Nicki Minaj or maybe that’s just me. Look, I’m not a scientist or a sexpert , and at the risk of sounding like a dirtbag ex-boyfriend, I won’t argue whether or not non-monogamy is “natural” or “just the way I’m wired, baby,” but as NPR ‘s Barbara King writes , creative couplings certainly seem to be having somewhat of a cultural moment.
Media representations of non-monogamy are becoming more dynamic and nuanced, with shows like House of Cards , I Love Dick , Orange Is The New Black, and the web series Unicornland bringing depictions of polyamorous relationships to viewers who might start to wonder if traditional dating practices are right for them.
If you’re thinking about dipping your toe or whatever else into the poly pool for the first time, chances are you’ll benefit from some basic etiquette while you figure out what you want and what you don’t.
Today’s Headline: “Yellow Fever: Dating As an Asian Woman” I am proud to be an Asian woman and to look the way that I do. My issue with being an Asian.
Never is a man so potentially dangerous to a female-read person as when he claims to be a feminist. But this is not an opinion that will endear you to many feminists, even other women. How jaded can you be? Male feminists are not immune to their masculine socialization — which is categorically toxic. Because sometimes, under the cloak of feminism can lie a fearful reality. Beware men who learn words like liberation and body positive and sexual agency — and use them to guilt you into sex.
Beware men who support your right to have sex, but not your right not to have sex. Beware men who tell you that you look better without the makeup, the high heels, the short skirts you love — as though you do those things for them. Beware men who use the language of social justice to manipulate you. Beware men who learn words like gaslighting so that they can accuse you of it when you disagree with them. Beware men who proclaim to support anti-violence work, but are violent in their own interactions.
Beware men who financially exploit you, but then throw in your face that you make more money than they do. Beware men who use words like bitch, slut, and cunt when angry in reference to you or other women. Beware men who are aware that they have higher standing than you do in your feminist communities and implicitly or explicitly use that to control you.
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And feminist blogs can be a great way to do so — all while supporting women bloggers, writers, journalists and activists. Each feminist-based blog is different from the next, but all focus on issues relevant to us in society today, such as gender equity, reproductive rights, sexual harassment and assault, and more. And if you’re looking for something more lyrical, we also have 15 feminist poets for you to browse. Everyday Feminism was launched in by Sandra Kim. The site produces a lot of listicle-style articles that cover everything from body image to politics to gender norms.
Feministing was created by feminist author and columnist Jessica Valenti in
News from the modern day witch hunt: Today, Everyday Feminism pulled an article about teaching kids that sex should be m 0 Shares. Donate. If the work we.
Originally posted on Everyday Feminism. I still remember the moment I came out as genderqueer to my then-partner. I was finally sharing a deep and important truth about myself: I was ready to transition and was overjoyed at the prospect of having my partner by my side. While his sexual preferences are his prerogative, he had failed to be supportive. That made me afraid to transition. I was afraid of being abandoned, afraid that I could not be loved as I was.
Partners can have a big impact on our transitions, for better or for worse. I thought that it was better to live a lie than live without the person I loved, and that was not only unfair, but it was also untrue. Rejecting our transition is rejecting who we are on a deep and essential level, and the pain that comes with that can be agonizing. But when our partners support us through this experience, it can make all the difference.
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On Bumble, only women can message first with their matches, and if there’s no response, the message disappears within 24 hours. The app has done so well that.
Date rape is a form of acquaintance rape and dating violence. The two phrases are often used interchangeably, but date rape specifically refers to a rape in which there has been some sort of romantic or potentially sexual relationship between the two parties. Acquaintance rape also includes rapes in which the victim and perpetrator have been in a non-romantic, non-sexual relationship, for example as co-workers or neighbors. Since the s, date rape has constituted the majority of rapes in some countries.
It is particularly prevalent on college campuses, and frequently involves consumption of alcohol or other date rape drugs. A feature of date rape is that in most cases the victim is female, knows the perpetrator   and the rape takes place in the context of an actual or potential romantic or sexual relationship between the parties, or when that relationship has come to an end. The perpetrator may use physical or psychological intimidation to force a victim to have sex against their will, or when the perpetrator has sex with a victim who is incapable of giving consent, for example, because they have been incapacitated by alcohol or other drug.
One of the most targeted groups are women between the ages of 16 to The phenomenon of date rape is relatively new.
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When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in , it ushered in a new era in the history of romance. It aimed to give readers the backstory on marrying couples and, in the meantime, to explore how romance was changing with the times. But in , seven of the 53 couples profiled in the Vows column met on dating apps.
The year before, 71 couples whose weddings were announced by the Times met on dating apps.
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VI, f. Yesterday, two friends of mine, Sjoerd Levelt and Kate Wiles, were on the radio talking about why it is that so many medievalists take to twitter. Speaking birds interrogate the margins of human speech, the margins of comprehensible language. Many though not all of the birds in medieval poetry are female, and some — like the hawk I posted about before — seem to slip between genders. This reflects medieval views quite aptly. It requires interpretation before we know what it means, and it places us on the margins of the main discourse.
So, what does all this medieval tweeting have to do with Everyday Feminism? A friend of mine, Sophia Baggins, just pointed out this cartoon on their site. The stories in this comic can help us all have more respect for the wide range of ways we stand up to oppression. The cartoons show a variety of women and one man , mostly, by implication, constructed as members of marginalized groups within feminism. The first is a Black woman, another wears a headscarf, another proclaims herself as a transwoman, yet another locates herself within indigenous culture.
All stand underneath the same two captions.
I am going to resist the temptation to take the title at face value and assume, rather, that our author does not actually intend for us to address these issues on a literal first date. Not that it would be a problem. I appreciate the desire for authenticity early on. Readers would like to believe such articles are written with nothing but the purest intentions. Characteristic of the quintessential blog medium so conducive to mass sharing and figuring so nicely into the outrage culture of the internet, it drips with condescension and righteous indignation.
Everyday Feminism supports people dealing with everyday violence, dominance, and silencing due to their gender, sexual orientation, race, class, and more.
Not anymore. They were created with our own needs in mind, so get ready to meet Mr. Right or Right Now. Bumble began in after Whitney Wolfe Herd left her work at Tinder a now-adversary! Today, Bumble serves 35 million users—with women making the first move. The app has done so well that the company has introduced Bumble BFF and Bumble Biz for growing friendships and professional networks.